Bringing Up Baby | Taming Anxiety
When I took a pregnancy test 8 months ago that read positive the only emotions I remember feeling at the time were excitement, joy, and blissfully happy. When my husband got home from work that day, our eyes teared as we sat on the floor in an empty room that we knew one day would be occupied by a little one. It was a moment in our marriage I’ll never forget. Nothing but me, him and the tiny little one growing in my womb mattered. We have had 8 months now to process how life is about to change- our priorities, responsibilities, daily routines, all of it will be shifted in ways we can’t yet comprehend and won’t until she’s actually here.
We’ve spent many, many nights in bed asking ourselves questions we’re scared and excited to encounter. How will we teach our child empathy and compassion? How do we protect her when we’re not physically with her? How do we teach her to appreciate and respect other cultures? How will we teach her the value of service? My husband and I always say we’d rather our children be bullied than be the bully. It’s an extremely difficult thing for us to imagine but at the end of the day, more than anything we want our children to have tender hearts. How do we achieve this?
As scared as I am about the actual delivery of our little girl, more than being anxious about my own physical pain, I worry about my ability to raise an empathetic, good hearted, kind, funny, loving, confident daughter. As much reading as we’ve done, there’s not a handbook on how to be a good parent (Darn!) Every parent and every child is unique and what’s been putting my mind at ease a bit lately is knowing that we are all in this journey together. My husband and I and our daughter. We’ll all be learning how to be a family of three which means we’ll have to navigate the choppy waters together as well and I’m finally starting to feel ready to tackle the feat.
How were some of your parenting anxieties eased as you entered parenthood?