Bullies On the Bus
It’s already started. Yesterday, my daughter came home from school, shut the door and started crying. She was bullied on the bus.
Two kids, one she’s had a problem with off and on over the years, teased and taunted her. They made fun of her backpack, made fun of her art, made fun of her for being a safety. Why such meanness? Because a while back, she stood up for a friend who has been the victim of merciless teasing.
It’s an old story. Kids are bullied every day. In fact, I am certain that these kids who taunted my daughter are victims of bullying themselves.
I did what I thought was right—I gave her a big hug, and let her let it all out. She told me through tears how they kept poking at her (physically), teasing her for her backpack, her artwork, making fun of her for being a safety. These are all the things that she’s proud of, that make her her.
She said she never wanted to go to school again. I told her I could understand why she felt that way. Then I said it was time for me to call the school and have adults step in (it’s been happening off and on since 3rd grade), that she shouldn’t have to do this alone.
The truth is I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to fully eradicate bullying behavior. Some kids will always push the line to see who’s alpha dog and they’ll do it in non productive ways. And some kids come from homes where bullying is the family culture. It’s sad, but that’s reality. Plus, let’s face it, there are adults who use teasing and ridicule to try to make others feel inferior. Pretty sure that’s how the internet started.
I can’t protect my kids from everyone and everything. As much as I wish I could, but what I can do is help her not feel so alone. No one should have to face teasing, taunting or physical harassment by themselves, especially a child.