Marriage | Date Nights Gone Wrong

by , posted on January 22nd, 2013 in marriage



date-night

When I started this marriage column, I wanted it to be honest. So we’ve talked about our perfect date night, but what about the imperfect? Cause we all know it happens, right?

My last date night with Dave ended rather poorly. Things started out great. We had actually gone out—in contrast to our typical date night involving take out and movie watching on the couch. We laughed over drinks and then we sat down at our table.

But then the conversation turned unexpectedly—some silly disagreement I’m sure, like who starred in some obscure tv show or movie. It just kind of snowballed from there. Were we tired? Probably. Were our expectations too high? Maybe. Were we carrying around some petty resentment (like who keeps leaving dirty dishes in the sink rather than put them in the empty dishwasher)? Who knows.

What I do know is this: it stinks when date night goes wrong.

What about you? Ever have a bad date with your partner?


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11 Responses to “Marriage | Date Nights Gone Wrong”

  1. Lacy Says:

    January 22nd, 2013 at 7:12 pm

    I can so relate! Our date-nights are almost always at home now. And when they end poorly – it probably means I fell asleep. #exhausted #sadbuttrue

    (Somehow the hashtags felt necessary.)

    -L

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    Jennifer Cooper Reply:
    January 22nd, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    That’s okay, because I want thumbs up your comment and hashtags. ;)

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  2. Caroline Says:

    January 22nd, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    Ditto what both of you said– I fall asleep during half our at home date nights and if we do argue its normally about something silly.

    One time I recall kind of ruining a date night because I was a total case about leaving the kids ( and then new baby) with a sitter. I think at one point I actually kind I yelled out “check please!” Talk about romance! :)) Ha!!

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    Jennifer Cooper Reply:
    January 22nd, 2013 at 10:35 pm

    Haha! I’m pretty sure I’ve done the same thing. I remember trying to sneakily check my phone during a movie to make sure the sitter didn’t call.

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  3. Kristen M. Says:

    January 22nd, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    We rarely get out, but when we do we have found doing something like a museum, walk at the beach, comedy club seem to be more positive than dinner out. We get sleepy at dinner and god forbid we do not have the best conversation…the whole night feels like a bust!

    A friend of mine does late afternoon dates…less fatigue, kids are asleep when they get home, and maybe even time for a Homeland episode upon returning home! So smart.

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    Jennifer Cooper Reply:
    January 22nd, 2013 at 10:41 pm

    That is smart! I also like your date locations. We need to try those.

    p.s. We just finished Homeland seasons 1 + 2 (we were late to the game). I feel a sense of loss now. What are we going to watch?!

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    Kristen M. Reply:
    January 22nd, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    I know! But my sleep has certainly improved since we finished watching it. I was so amped up every night…that show is intense! I have a serious crush on Saul. :)

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    Miranda Makes Reply:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 9:48 am

    So funny that Homeland came up here. We just finished the first season last night. AH! Dying to start the next season. (But like Kristen said, we kinda need to catch up on sleep!)

    Miranda Makes Reply:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 9:49 am

    Oh, and I totally agree about Saul. Oh my!

  4. Celina Says:

    January 23rd, 2013 at 7:16 pm

    Thanks for all the honesty! We hardly ever go on dates, usually it’s for an anniversary or birthday, so spirits are up. We also try the day time thing- works a lot better! And how awkward is it when you have nothing to say to each other or just talk about the kids? That’s happened a few times- yikes!

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  5. Audrey - This Little Street Says:

    January 28th, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    Love the honesty. Yes, we also definitely have date nights that go sour….tiredness, the things that will do to a human brain, really. The silly things we can argue about sometimes!

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