Work It | Rejection

by , posted on September 15th, 2014 in Work It




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Well, I wish I had a different response to my inaugural post about my job search. Alas, I was… rejected.

It’s unpleasant to be rejected. Especially from something you know you could easily rock. People like to say things like, “It wasn’t meant to be.” I know this, because I am those people. Except you wonder. You think dark thoughts, friends. There’s no sugar coating it, no rosy spin. Rejection sucks, even if Oprah does tell you, “I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want me.”

My course of action when served a pipping hot bowl of rejection is this: I allow myself to wallow for a bit and then, after I’m done with despair, I get back on the horse. The wallowing period is crucial. I need to allow myself to go through it and really feel it in order to regroup.

In the end, the only thing we can do with rejection is to pick ourselves back up and try again. It hurts, but it’s not forever. Or at least that’s what I’m telling myself.

How about you? How do you bounce back from rejection? The Huffington Post has seven exercises. I’m off to try a few…


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5 Responses to “Work It | Rejection”

  1. julia-tagandtibby Says:

    September 15th, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    That is so hard! I’ve gotten some small rejections over the last few months. Like you I wallow for a night or 2 then try, try again. Oh and I totally get the missing people, should I go back to work thing. Working through that right now!

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    You’ll have to let me know what you decide. Maybe we can commiserate together. ha!

  2. Sandra Says:

    September 15th, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    That IS the hardest – knowing that you have what it takes for job “x” and then being turned down for whatever reason.

    I think that there’s something about getting used to rejection – that “50 asks” idea. Just getting immune to the rejection and seeing that it isn’t personal.

  3. Molly Says:

    September 15th, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    I’m sorry Jen. What a bummer.

    Over the past week, I’ve been going through a very intensive interview process to hire a new colleague for a senior staff position. To give you some perspective, we got 100 resumes. We decided to interview 20, and of those 20, we’re bringing back 9 in the second round. We had originally intended to bring back only 4 or so in the second round, but we had so many good candidates that we’ve decided to bring back 9 of them. Somehow we have to narrow that down even further and then make a final choice. It’s going to be excruciating.

    As I’ve been thinking about the people who will ultimately get rejected from this job, I hope they know that they were all very well qualified – it just so happens that someone had a slightly different experience that really matched what we’re looking for. And, you know what? It’s all so subjective too. I’ve been reminded of that over and over recently- we’re doing our best to find the right match, but there’s a lot of guessing too. Who knows what resumes we rejected – people who didn’t make the first round who may have been an amazing choice.

    So, take that as some consolation. You are very well qualified and it’s important that you know it. I’m glad you have such a good perspective on this.

    I think you are brave!

  4. Birute Efe Says:

    September 17th, 2014 at 8:10 am

    Molly’s words above are so inspiring. I think they will help you to minimize the pain of rejection. And I don’t even think rejection is a good word for it. You will end up getting even a better deal. You will see!
    P.S. I just remembered, I was “rejected” a dishwasher’s job once because I was overqualified (?) :) Not the case in my house for sure… Apparently I am very qualified for washing dishes in my house.


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