You’re More Beautiful Than You Think

by , posted on April 16th, 2013 in Features


How do we see ourselves? How does the world see us? Watch what happens when a forensic artist draws women based on their descriptions of themselves vs descriptions from others.

Powerful stuff. These lines in particular caught me:

“Our self perceptions are harsh and unbecoming. It’s not how the world sees us.”

“I should be more grateful of my natural beauty.”

“[Our perception of ourselves] impacts the choices in the friends that we make, the jobs we apply for, how we treat our children. It impacts everything. It couldn’t be more critical to your happiness.”

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We’re taught such conflicting messages about pretty from the time we’re young: Don’t worry about being pretty. Work to be pretty. You’re not pretty enough to be desired. You’re too pretty to be taken seriously. They come from the media, our families and ourselves. I’m happy to see a campaign encouraging us to see ourselves, as we are at this very moment, in a beautiful light.

Know this—you are braver, stronger, smarter and yes, more beautiful than you think. We see it. I hope you do too.

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13 Responses to “You’re More Beautiful Than You Think”

  1. Tami (Teacher Goes Back to School) Says:

    April 16th, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    um, that totally made me cry.

  2. Tami (Teacher Goes Back to School) Says:

    April 16th, 2013 at 8:21 pm

    also, when i see you i think: adorable, playful, contagious smile, preppy dresser, slim, youthful.

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    When I see you I see a kick-ass woman with gorgeous sassy hair and a smile that lights up a room. You’re stunning!

  3. Kat Says:

    April 16th, 2013 at 8:35 pm

    Thanks, Jennifer!

  4. Kristen M. Says:

    April 16th, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    Wow. That was powerful. As someone who has dealt with some pretty major appearance/ body issues in the past, I thought I had done the work. But, hearing the women describe themselves, I realize this inner-dialogue, however quiet, is still present in my life. By blowing off a compliment, or even worse, negating it. Comparisons. This was a beautiful reminder. :) We are all beautiful.

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    We are indeed.

  5. Hana Says:

    April 16th, 2013 at 11:39 pm

    Wow Jen – that was very powerful, and I must admit brought me to tears. It felt so close to home.

    I have noticed a drastic change in my feelings towards my body and appearance since becoming a mama… prior to having them I always considered myself happy in my own skin… but since the babies I feel like I’m in someone else’s body. I have pretty much hidden from any camera since giving birth to Ava (which is horrible to admit that my own inner critic is stopping me from recording photographic memories with my girls).

    All this negative self-talk is something I am really trying to work through at the moment (especially as my girls get bigger, I want to be a super positive role model for them when it comes to body confidence and self image), and this post and your video is so timely for me to realise I need to be more gentle on myself. Thank you. H xo

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    Oh no! You should absolutely have photos of yourself. Try it as an exercise. It’s uncomfortable at first, but I think the more you ‘see’ yourself, the more comfortable you’ll feel. You’re so lovely! You are worthy of being documented.

  6. Jillian in Italy Says:

    April 17th, 2013 at 7:20 am

    Oh that made me weepy. Beautifully done. Made me realize that I really do have to start focusing on what I like about myself instead of what I don’t like about myself. Hard to do but so worth it.

    And Jen, anyone that can look as good as you do in selfies has nothing to worry about in the looks department!

    Tina Reply:

    You don’t have anything to worry about in that department either! Bella Bella.

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    I’m with Tina!

  7. Giulia Doyle Says:

    April 17th, 2013 at 9:37 am

    We are our own harshest critics. Along with media, upbringing and social influences – I also believe that woman go through extreme body changes in their lives, especially if they have kids. These extreme changes can really mess you up and are hard to take. During pregnancy, my skin was perfect, but my ankles were swollen. After pregnancy my skin was back to being difficult, I am almost back to the same weight, but the same clothes don’t fit.
    While men also face some image issues(short, skinny, heavy, bald), I believe they don’t go through such extreme changes throughout their lives.
    Learning to take a compliment is one thing, not being too hard on myself is the other. But you know what gets me the most? The fact that I look tired – I don’t want to look tired ;)
    Great post.

    Jennifer Cooper Reply:

    That is incredibly insightful. It’s true, our bodies change so much. It’s no wonder we struggle sometimes.

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